Fuck man.

Tip number one: When you have a person who is anti-establishment in your circle, and he/she happens to hold on to most of the dough for that circle, you'd do well to find someone to bug the hell out of this person to pass the shit to the next responsible, socially meek person.

Why: Cos' if shit happens which involves him disappearing for a given amount of time, your circle can't do shit. All your plans, all your planning processes, all your stuff will become so fucked up. Already the question of having enough dough to make the bread is going to drag things and bring about idleness, and the question mark that is whether the dough is coming or not, should we cut back our activities and sit it out, or should we go ahead as planned, fucks things up to such a high degree that even the factory mates start yelling.


Tip number two: When this person happens to be, quite tragically, someone who really, really is a very nice person, it's often very easy to forgive the person after he/she has caused an almost-fulfilled, humungous catastrophe. When the person is such a person, you will do well to ask a few more people to help you out, and keep them in direct contact with this person

Why: Cos' ill responsibility are usually traits that run with socially ugly people. And if the person happens to be a nice person, anything you do that intrudes into his space is going to make you look bad. And on your part, you might become too soft to constantly bombard the person with reminders, and if needs be, threats. So having other people to help you out, not only evens out the pressure that you need to put on the person, it also makes you look less bad.


Tip number three: the actual confrontation. When confronting the person who does not want to appear anywhere in your sight, you should always remain as calm as possible.

Why: that is to prevent you from making a fool out of yourself. Tell yourself, C'mon, let it pass! and hope that everyone else starts seeing you in a different light.