Facebook

Seriously, Facebook really sucks. There's no privacy! When you change your details and all, ALL your friends will know. Like, if I change my relationship status to Open with Shawn, everyone knows. If I change it back to Single, Everyone knows. If I change my tastes to dogs and cats, THE WHOLE WORLD WILL KNOW.

Think about it. On Facebook, the people you add most probably aren't people you even talk to once in a month. These are people who probably have a good 1st impression of you enough for them to add you on facebook. Then If you change something waht not to your profile, these people are notified by virtue of "friends should know" policy. Then the WHOLE WORLD knows that you like carrots and not whipped cream. Or whisky. Or anything else obscene.

That was mean. Hehehe.

But it's the truth see. So what people do, is that they construct an image of themselves that they want others to see. On Facebook. Through deliberate framing of photographs and profile-editing and comments and wall-posts, they create an image that they want others to see. This image is not necessarily who they think they are.

It's who they want you to think they are.

But sadly, not everyone has the time and agenda to really, really do something humungous as this. So, more than often not, you get fragmented pieces of imagination, juxtaposed with shards of honest, bare, vulnerable personality. So, depending on which part you engage, the effects on the person is different.


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The band's at standstill now. ~~Standstill~~~ Chang.

Jason's quite messed up this time round. Now, between being band leader and being a friend to Jason, I'd just tell him to get his life on and forget about the band. Even if he's able to come back to Singapore to study, I'd rather he focus on his studies. I think that's best for him.

Like I said, this band is a hobby band. We have aims and goals and all, but it's all within the time outside of what we call school.

At times I think about life, my life, why I feel empty in times of my 22 years, and I realise that, I am a very dynamic person. I need many social groups to attach to. I need more than one identity.

Imagine this: In your secondary school, you go to school in the day, and in the afternoon you come home. You stay at home until the next day you need to go to school again. Cycle continues until it's Saturday, when you don't even go out of your house.

Who are you? You identify yourself as a student of XXYY Secondary School. When you go back home, if you have a family, you identify yourself as a brother/sister/son/daughter.

So what happens when you do not need to go to XXYY Secondary school anymore? Your only identity is at home. And home is a boring place, cos everyone else is working, and you're not.

When you go to work, you identify yourself as a worker of AABB company. When you go home, you are still brother/sister/son/daughter.

That means in your whole life, you only have at most two social groups that you derive your identity with at any, one time. Which means, in your whole life, you probably are only a worker, or a family member.

This precisely why people feel empty in their lives. Because life has so much more potential, and human time allows for so much more, why do we have to construct cages and grey iron bars to limit our time and freedom? Why do we have to keep ourselves in trapped, boring life?

This is just the thing I dread. I dread leading such a monochromatic life. Looking back at my secondary school, JC, after-A'level work, I finally realise why I have always felt so empty all throughout.

I realise then, that University is probably the best time for me to transcend this boring monochromatic life. That University is probably the only time you can build the foundations for your future social life.

Which is kinda sad, we only say Hi and Bye. I think it's time I took a more proactive stance towards socialising. Cos' we've only got so little time.

Cos we've only got so little time, we can't do much too. So what gives? Time is so constrained. And of course, the concept of time is a human invention. So what gives?





That's where, time management comes in.


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